December 1 - I have noted the many comments on my management of my IT manager with stress on here.
I have to say I do understand stress. I have witnessed it at close hand in my family.
I have a very strong impression I'm only just hanging everything together right now. Indeed, sleeplessness is a real issue for me at the moment that my wife wants me to see our GP about.
So please don't get me wrong: it's not I don't respect the issue. It's precisely because I do that I took the action I did.
Stress arises, I think, for a reason. I don't think it's my job to know the reason in this case unless the manager wants to tell me. But what he did make clear to me was that he had simply been signed off. There was no action plan. And from what I have seen that is of little use. Stress needs to be proactively managed, like much else in life, or in a month's time my manager will be more stressed about coming back to work than he was when he went off/ How does my leaving him to face that situation help?
So the offer I've made to him - and which i requested he partake in - was to see a specialist, and not a GP who signed a sick note, with the promise of follow up help if needed.
Now I'm not sure how I can be criticised for saying that I expect him to play his part in tackling a real issue if it has arisen, and for saying if he refuses to do so it is not my responsibility. I think that's completely responsible management and way beyond that which most companies would offer.
I'm pretty much disappointed at the reaction. It implies to me a lack of understanding of stress - which only really goes away when the underlying issues are resolved.
But it sure as heck increased my stress.
In fact, I'd say it's not been a fun week.
But I don;t for a minute regret reaching out to seek to help this guy in a way that will, I am sure, help.